7 Steps To Survive A Break-Up or Divorce
Posted: Monday, June 19, 2006
by Susan Russo
Pinnacle Thought Inc.
Are you struggling with letting go of a past love?
We all know how painful it can be when walking away from a relationship.
You may be dealing with feelings that can be overwhelming and at times you need a bit
of guidance to help keep you on track.
As difficult as it may be right now, keep in mind that your feelings are normal
and simply part of a process that you will get beyond.
Follow these 7 steps in healing a broken heart and you will begin
the process of letting go and moving on.
1. ACCEPTANCE: Until you face reality, you won't begin to let go. Accepting that
your relationship is over is the first step in putting the past behind you.
2. MAKE A CLEAN BREAK: None of this on-again-off-again stuff. You will only
prolong the inevitable.
3. IT'S OKAY TO GRIEVE: Don't feel bad for feeling bad. You are going through
a very normal process that you will get beyond. Just give yourself some time.
4. FOCUS ON YOURSELF: Indulge yourself. Pamper yourself. Do the things that
make you feel good again. You are going through a tough time right now,
so be good to yourself. Loving yourself is the best gift you can give yourself.
5. IMPROVE YOURSELF: This is an opportunity to begin a journey into self-discovery.
Getting your self-esteem back on track is key to your recovery. Discover what
you want from life and go after it.
6. LEARN TO FORGIVE: Forgiving frees you from the chains of the past and allows
you to let go of anger and resentment. If you choose not to forgive the only
person you hurt is yourself.
7. MOVE ON: The end is just the beginning! Learn from your mistakes and pick up
the pieces so you can move on and go after the kind of life and relationship
you deserve.
The sooner you take action and do what is good for you, the sooner you will
be moving toward the kind of life and relationship you really want.
Find the courage to pull yourself out of this funk. Take charge of your life and you
will find that there actually is life after What's-His-Name! You just have to make
the decision so you can move on.
Take little steps each day and you will be amazed that you are starting
to feel better. Lean on your friends and remember, time really does heal all wounds.
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Top-level comments on this article: (5 total)This article really helped me. Im very depressed over a long distance breakup. My heart feels like it has a hole through it but the article made me aware that it is normal and that time will help. I also need to accept that it is over. Thanks for the article!
I was in a very long marriage and Susan's book helped me to understand that you you really need to let go and move passed that place of pain or your life will pass you by very quickly. You need to live life everyday as if it were your last with someone you care about. And this book helped me see that! GRASIAS SUSAN ~~~ YOU ARE THE BEST~~~Hi Kateleena, I'm so happy that my book has helped you to focus on something other than What's-His-Name. I know how difficult and painful it can be to let go of the past and all of the emotions that go along with "the end." Keep your thoughts focused on what you want out of life, as we create our lives by what we think of all day long. I'm sure you are a wonderful person and you deserve all of the beauty that life has to offer. Remember, you are a day closer to a better life. Warm wishes, Susan
I was in a very short and very young relationship/marriage. I'm finding very hard to get my life back on tract. Thank you for this article hopefully it will be the first step I take to getting over the past.
Hi..am Mwasi,am so much reliefed by ur article,honestly experiencng a break up frm a person you ril lav it hurts so much!am in such a situation its only fews days less than a week my bf told me that he cnt be with me anymore..it hurts bt am trying to let it go..hpe il b okay.
Its Mwasi again..the article has real helped,i hv realized smtng gud from it,i didnt know about all ths t makes me feel much better,through this article i cem to accept everythng what happened!am trying to do so much to gain back my hapness..bt in the other hand i lav hm so much n stil thnkng of hm so much bt i believe through what i hv read il be okay,il follow wat it telz!bt i need sam helps about what do i do to stop thnkng of hm evrtm?the picture of the day he tod me that he cnt be wit me kips runing in my mind,wat do i do to get it over?
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